Totally confused about my future...

Started by move-easy, March 11, 2012, 08:59

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Like some of you know already, I started at Uni about a year ago and am currently studying Industrial Environmental Protection.
For some time now, I have absolutely no motivation. I just don't see the point of going to Uni if I don't take it seriously at all.
I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if I should continue doing what I'm doing right now, cause don't get me wrong, I find it interesting, it's just... I dunno...
*sigh* this is effed up...
anyway, I don't even know what I'm interested in anymore, so I've no clue what to do after this semester is finished...

Anybody got any suggestions/opinions/experiences that could help me?
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Thanks for that Rioui!
My problem is that on one hand I'm a multitalent with lots of different interests (sports, art, IT, science, languages, ... and the list goes on and on) and on the other hand I'm not especially good in anything.
That's what makes my decisions so hard, since I am unable to rule out most of the stuff just looking at ability, and I can rule out even less things due to interest...
But it's encouraging to hear that I'm not the only one that had trouble deciding what to do :D
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Thx. Yea, I suck at decisionmaking pretty bad as well. Sometimes I wish I was younger again and still living with my parents, letting them make all the decisions for me, even if I didn't always like them.
I'm a bit worried about taking too long to make a decision, cause here we get money from the state for studying until we are 24, so my dad said that's how long he's gonna give me money, and if I don't finish until then, I'll just have to work while studying, which I wanna avoid as long as possible. lazy me...
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I know it's an old thread, but I know this kind of feeling happens to a lot of people, so I thought I'd reply anyway, in case it helps anyone else :)

First of all, it's OK not to have it all figured out when you're starting out. I know loads of people still figuring out which direction they want their lives to go in, what studies to study, which careers to go for. It's not something that everyone can decide quickly. I'm an indecisive type with a lot of interests, so I know how you feel.

Uni is a time when many people realise how much or how little they actually like their subject. There's no shame in realising something just isn't for you. You can carry on studying it until the end, or you can see if your uni will let you transfer to another course, if there's anything you prefer. If there are particular things in your course that you really dislike, you can decide if you can put up with them (every course will have something you dislike) or if they really are dealbreakers for you.

I also think it's important you talk to somone at uni, like a counsellor, about how you feel. Because it's also not uncommon for students to feel under stress or get depressed, and for that to be what's causing them to feel unmotivated or stressed. If you have access to a doctor, or you feel really bad it may also be worth talking to them in case it's something easily treatable like an underactive thyroid, which again can cause you to feel like that. 

I have had friends who changed courses, and I've had ones who kept on with the 'wrong' one then redirected themselves after they graduated. Either course of action can work, depending on your case.

If you find yourself liking a lot of areas, the options are either to pick one that you particularly like, or that has more career opportunities, better work and life balance, or more money. There is no shame to picking which area to go into based on these things, either, as long as it's still an area you enjoy. Talk to others in different fields and you can get an idea of what the good and bad points are about each, and how able you might be to go into that field.  Or, if you really can't decide on one, look for degrees, training or a job in a field which crosses over several of your fields or combines them. Teaching, for example, in some countries might have you applying yourself to loads of these areas.

I'll end by mentioning that it's really not about how early you decide, but about finding something you can live with. I know plenty of people who stuck with what they had 'always' wanted, only to hate their job (hey, it turns out a 6 year old really doesn't know what engineering is like!), and plenty of people who decided much later on, but wouldn't change their life for the world. The important thing is to look at career option advice from school/uni, ask around, try things, and remember that if you don't like something you can change it. Best of luck to anyone working out their path in life :)


Long story short, everything will just come into place  :goodjob:


^ Haha, Pau. It's ideal but it's not realistic or practical.
You can't go around thinking everything will just fall into place. Otherwise, you'd just go on living your everyday life just hoping that one day, everything would fall into place.

To OP, if you're still around:

It's all right to think that everything feels strange and that you don't feel like you're doing what you should be doing. These things take time and you're young - and you most certainly still have time.

Starting university is just like starting another chapter of your life. Everything shouldn't just fall together (although that'd be nice), especially at that age. You're still trying to find out who you are and what you're going to be.

Yes, you may be multi-talented but find something you like. Make a list of everything you're good at and choose five things you really like to do/are really interested in. Then perhaps, maybe you'd find what you've been hoping for.

That said, don't just go with the flow. Take action and make your own destiny.  :goodjob:
Wit beyond measure is man's greatest treasure.


once i wanted to be a doctor to save lives. but i gave up on it cu i might kill someone.

then i decided to be an animator (because of my love for anime  :love:) but there weren't any school i could afford and my grandma rejects it  :indotz:

then in hotel room management but i got so many complaint from my family

so i ended up with computer engr. (since i like programming) and truth be told, i'm lovin it!  :goodjob:


You shouldn't give up too easily. Never ever do that. If your grandma don't want you to become one, then prove her wrong that you can do it. Even if you can't afford schools, you can always find jobs or apply for financial aid for support on your income. And usually those classes are online, so you can just ask help during school and do the rest at home or anywhere you want.
As for medical field, you have to take certain classes as well, especially science&health.
As for Hotel Room Management, You need to learn how to take managment classes and a lot of speeches to talk to your workers and usually these type of jobs are like really really hard to get money; especially when there's already thousands of hotel in this world.
A lot of people know how to do Computer enginer, but as long as you're having fun then I guess its fine.

OT: My future, I already planned it out. I just wish my teachers can have my things ready when I asked them so many times and yet they never hand me my transcript and stuff. ._.
Also, its alright to start late for colleges, because you may or may not have the money or you're just not ready for it.



Yep, if you don't know what to do, just keep on doing your best in what you're already engaged in. :dignose:

Then, you might eventually find something which will be more interesting, or you'll be motivated again.
The worst thing would be giving up and having nothing better to do. It's just like when getting fed up with your boss !! Don't resign if you don't have an other place somewhere else.

I think I'm a bit materialistic, but in order to be able to do what you want, you'd better have some... backups I guess ?  ???


Well, I have my future all planned out, but no backup-plan whatsoever, so that scares me a bit. What if it all goes down the drain and I'm left with nothing to do with my life? I just hope that I can be a doctor and see what happens if I don't get in...

thanks to Shineshan <3