So who here have fallen in love before???Or have their heart broken? Or just have an unrequited love?? Or just want to fall in love??What do you think about love? Do we need love?? O_O Why is love even existed?? LOL. :love:
Well, I didn't see a thread about love so I decide to make one. hehe. Btw, if there a thread about love already or whatever. sorry i was to lazy to search for it LLOLS.
Ooh, a thread about love~ :woohehe:
DISCLAIMER: These are the words of inherent cynic. Don't take them to heart.
Well, I've never truly been in love before, but I've had my fair share of crushes.
And I've known others who are sickeningly in love. :yawn:
The way many people speak about love these days makes it seem so hard to 'maintain'. So, I'm not particularly interested in falling in love, but I think it'd be nice to experience it one day. :) :goodjob:
Love also seems a bit scary. I had a friend who was dating a guy a few years older than her, but they were working it out. It was so sweet to see him write a poem to her for Valentine's Day~ :love:
However, a problem arose when my friend's parents found out about her boyfriend. They disapproved of her dating because, quote, "It interferes with your school work." My friend broke up with the guy, but did it badly. It doesn't seem like he wants to let her go, so she's now giving him the cold shoulder. I feel so sorry for the dude.
Especially since my friend recently met another guy and is now interested in him (but her parents don't know about him at all).
I just hate how love seems so fickle. It's like when I read a manga where a girl falls in love with the popular boy at school while not noticing her caring childhood friend (who she often thinks of as a little brother, not a love interest).
I also like the idea of 'waiting for the right person', but, really, what's the chance of finding someone I could potentially spend the rest of my life happily with?
It's not impossible, but it's definitely HARD, right?
Oh-la-ha. Ryu :goodjob:
I think ...think.. I have at least uh..1..2...3..4 boyfriend in the past :yawn:
Oh yeah, right now I have cute boyfriend which is currently dating. :love:
:3 .. so that make 5 so far. O_O i have the same problem like most asian kids do or maybe all. :=D:
any way. o-o i have to keep my dating a secret from my parents O_O asian parents of course.
they keep say love interfere with eduction :yawn: well whatever.. lols
Whoa, you're on number 5?!
:hmmm:
Are you just dating because you can, or are you trying to actually find 'the one'? ???
lol. Actually, now that I think about it, my parents are a little abnormal for Asian parents. If I got a boyfriend, they would be ecstatic. :swt:
I have an older brother who hasn't dated EVER (just like me. =_=), and I know that they've definitely noticed that.
idk
How's dating? Is it fun most of the time, or is it hard to maintain a good relationship?
=_= icey can't even think about dating after college OTL
and i've never liked anyone seriously. lol. KOREAN IDOLS AND FICTIONAL MANGA CHARACTERS FTW. they keep me away from boys...xD which is what i'm trying to do as of now... :swt:
O_O 5 BOYFRIENDS?! WHOA...
:yawn: Never had a boyfriend... never been in love... Cant date till im out of my parents house...
Well what the hell... Love is sooo onfusing not so simple like in mangas...
Hmm.
@Ryu , i am dating to lookin for the one and sometime for fun :woohehe:
Dating is sometime fun, *skip and sometime not :noway: Yesh it hard to maintain a relationship :swt:
dating is awesome cause you get to cuddle :shy:
@icewing , Yep 5 boyfriend and might be my last :=D:
@Renny , but it so fun.. lols well sometime :goodmood:
What the heck.. Love is awesome.. still lookin for a dude who is like a manga character *skip
Haha... I see!
Yeah, I would to find someone who was like Yamamoto Takeshi from Katekyo Hitman Reborn!
He's so nice!
hehe :wahaha:
i like dude who is like ....the samurai dude from shugo chara.. :love:
now we're getting into our fantasies...>.<
i like the melted-down/cuter/nicer/softer hibari-san <3
i know that's impossible. but YOU NEVER KNOW!! :3
lol lol HIBARI as a BOYFRIEND! :=X:
That would be very interesting to see. He only shows his nice side to little animalsssss... :touched:
But as he is now, I still don't know how he got first on the spouse poll. XD
Haha, I was talking with a friend the other day, and we somehow started dreaming about how we'd like KHR characters to be related to us.
My friend wanted Yamamoto as her husband, Tsuna as her lil bro, Dino as her big bro, and Hibari as her cousin.
I agreed with her on all but Hibari, and I also added that I would love to have Gokudera as my bff and Ryohei as my uncle.
:love:
And Reborn as my tutor. NOT. :=X:
We shared a moment of silence before bursting out in laughter.
:goodmood:
:wahaha:
lol I wish there could be love like you read it in mangas...
Hmmm... what about usui as a boyfriend?? :=X:
Ehh Diaya, first of all, 5 boyfriend?! And you are entering high school O_o
Please don't break your heart and protect yourself against bad boys! Also, stay safe [you know what I mean].
THAT IS FOR ALL YOUR LADIES OUT THERE.
~~~
I only had 1 that lasted 8 months. I suppose the usual relationship has rises and falls, eventually things don't work out any more and break up happens. For me, I broke up with him and it was bad. Now he is dating my ex-best friend, but I have no objections [screw those idiotic traditions]. It was hard for me to accept this reality at first, got depressed and messed up second half of junior year [BIG MISTAKE! But hey, I didn't fail that badly ;)]
So... treasure the time you have with a kind boy, and don't be a whiny brat like those manga girls. That was my mistake, I suppose. Also, there is no fantasy or romance you see in manga or movies. Maybe at first, but eventually it is just the comfortable zone. Lastly, DRAMA QUEEN is a big no no. He can't comfort and be with you all the time, so remember to be independent and stay away from him sometimes too.
I guess the best advice I can give to you is that real love is not what you see in manga or movies. Of course, after several boyfriends you will know how to deal with your future husband and work out a long lasting relationship!
I personally think that most guys you date CAN work out with you. It is just how much effort you two put in. Of course, sometimes there are obvious mismatches but hey, arranged marriages do work xD
:bow: Thank you. Catriona.. XD
lol you do have great advice XD...
mHm.. I wannt get married but ppl say im too young :=X:
I agree with Catriona. You're pretty right about that--"most guys you date CAN work out with you". It's all a matter of how much effort you put in, time and everything.
I think there is one thing important for love, and that is to develop yourself. If you don't develop yourself, you're going to be lost in the relationship. Because if you have nothing to yourself, and all you have is on him--it's not very balanced at all. It's too much pressure on him. But if you have something to yourself, like a hobby or whatever, it helps. Because you don't always need to be with him. Though love is strange, and you do want to be with the person you like a lot. I'm not explaining this very well. But I think it's important for both person in the relationship to have a "self".
Anyway, as for myself, I've only had one relationship (2 months). That was back in my junior year. I had the Asian parents as well that goes, you shouldn't date till college. Well, needless to say, I really liked this guy so we dated in secret from our parents. But I felt guilty, so I eventually confessed to my mom. My mom didn't like that, so I broke up with him. I still feel a bit guilty about it though because he never got a proper explanation on why, and I didn't break up with him because I didn't like him. Utter failure. :crywithno:
Time for Sharwin's words of wisdom.
Love is when two people join at the groin.
How sentimental, Sharwin. Werr the scary says "Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
The important thing is to remember that love doesn't stick to a recipe. There aren't any set ingredients (other than two people, and that's...debatable) or steps or cooking times to insure a tasty baked item. You basically have to wing it—and while it can be scary not having a guide, it also means you get to make your own rules.
You guys are all so eloquent =/
Hmm love. I have a partner of 3 years and we have already mapped out the next 30 years of financial expenditure (mortgage #1, stupid wedding in two countries, cranky kids and their extorbitant school fees, mortgage #2). We have even discussed the future division of labour within the household and expectations for cohabitation.
At this point you're probably thinking: Whuuuuuut... sounds like a contract.
Well, it is--a social contract between partners. We're willingly entering into this contract because we both assume that this nebulous concept of "love" exists, and that it exists between us.
For him, love is spending most of his money on me, and spending Friday nights at my house instead of out drinking with his friends. It is about changing his lifestyle (start exercising) and diet (no more going to his beloved McDonalds) so that I don't worry about his health. It's about meeting my family and going to meals with them even though he feels really uncomfortable at those outings. And it's about calling me once in a while, even though he really hates talking on the phone.
For me, love is thinking about him first thing when I wake up, last thing before I sleep. It is about buying his favourite cheese and drinks when I'm at the supermarket, and spending 3 hours cooking shepherd's pie for him. It's letting him go out with his friends and game into the night. It's giving him a foot rub after he's had a long day at work. It's about sitting through movie episodes that he loves but I hate. It's also about being willing to sacrifice a couple of new dresses so that I can get him new jeans instead.
And for both of us, love is about making sure we make those incremental changes now so that when the time comes, we slip into a comfortable and easy life together, and lead the loving life we want to, instead of letting everything crash in all at once and (and losing the person who matters most to us).
What is your love like?
Quote from: ruraine on August 28, 2011, 21:52
You guys are all so eloquent =/
Hmm love. I have a partner of 3 years and we have already mapped out the next 30 years of financial expenditure (mortgage #1, stupid wedding in two countries, cranky kids and their extorbitant school fees, mortgage #2). We have even discussed the future division of labour within the household and expectations for cohabitation.
At this point you're probably thinking: Whuuuuuut... sounds like a contract.
Well, it is--a social contract between partners. We're willingly entering into this contract because we both assume that this nebulous concept of "love" exists, and that it exists between us.
For him, love is spending most of his money on me, and spending Friday nights at my house instead of out drinking with his friends. It is about changing his lifestyle (start exercising) and diet (no more going to his beloved McDonalds) so that I don't worry about his health. It's about meeting my family and going to meals with them even though he feels really uncomfortable at those outings. And it's about calling me once in a while, even though he really hates talking on the phone.
For me, love is thinking about him first thing when I wake up, last thing before I sleep. It is about buying his favourite cheese and drinks when I'm at the supermarket, and spending 3 hours cooking shepherd's pie for him. It's letting him go out with his friends and game into the night. It's giving him a foot rub after he's had a long day at work. It's about sitting through movie episodes that he loves but I hate. It's also about being willing to sacrifice a couple of new dresses so that I can get him new jeans instead.
And for both of us, love is about making sure we make those incremental changes now so that when the time comes, we slip into a comfortable and easy life together, and lead the loving life we want to, instead of letting everything crash in all at once and (and losing the person who matters most to us).
What is your love like?
Eloquent? I almost said, "Love is him getting to fart in bed and you choosing to stay with him anyway. Are you sure you still want it?" but figured it might leave a scar.
But yes, the good kind of love definitely requires sacrifice of some sort—on both sides, ideally. Very nicely and lyrically-in-a-way-that-makes-me-think-you-write-in-your-spare-time put, Ruraine.
Quote from: Furgeson on August 20, 2011, 21:08
How sentimental, Sharwin. Werr the scary says "Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
And I stand by that. Though what Sharwie says is cynically correct too.
Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love. :angry1: but i do envy peoples who are in love tho. :love:
it pity that i am starting to hate my life :haix: i got me lots of homework and stuff and problem :zzzz: Worst of all. I just got dump *h3r0 well i learn a lesson now. never to fall in love again :yawn: haha.. what u gonna do with love.. :'(
Quote from: Diaya on September 11, 2011, 11:28
Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love.
Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese
Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese
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Sitting around waiting for happiness (or love in this case) to fall in your lap is quite overly optimistic if you ask me. I've been trying that for the last ten years or so and its just pretty much gotten me ignored.
*stress
If you want anything good out of life, love, money, success, a stable relationship, etc., its something you have to work at and find for yourself. Just expecting things to fall out of the sky on you will just leave you disappointed and possibly depressed.
:yawn:
Personally, I find love as the condition of willingness to give up certain comforts, pleasures, desires, time, effort, dreams, etc. in order to obtain the companionship, respect, and faithfulness of someone else. Its expected that both sides will make sacrifices to one degree or another due to how much they value each other rather than simply looking for what they can "get out of" the relationship for themselves. In this perspective, its a lot more about the personality of the other person than their looks. Sure, you won't probably fall in love with someone who you find repulsive, and being easy on the eyes certainly helps, but I find most people's criteria much too biased towards looks. If I could find someone who could bear to deal with my personality and isn't too put off by my looks then I would be more than happy to make some pretty drastic lifestyle changes.
:love:
The problem is, I'm absolutely terrible at reading romantic vibes or the lack thereof, so in the end I'm left wondering if I even have a chance at love at all. All the jerks who are upfront and blunt with how shallow they really are tend to capture all the attention.
:crywithno:
In the end I'm left wondering if there is even a place for the sentimental, polite, and kind in the world. :noway: So in the end I'm stuck watching anime and reading manga about relationships and banging my head on the wall in mild irritation as my roommates act like complete idiots in their own relationships.
:omg:
I'm type-casted as the friend, darn it, and feel free to call me a cynic if you must but it seems I am just destined to be alone.
:bow:
That's pretty much my take on love... Be active, be willing to give up things, and even if you are all those things it still might not work out. That's just how it goes these days.
Quote from: Miller on September 13, 2011, 08:39
Quote from: Diaya on September 11, 2011, 11:28
Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love.
Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese
Thats how it goes... be happy with being single!! it's my motto :goodmood: You wont be complaining about a broken heart :=X:
You guy are so right :goodjob:
LOLS. anyway. love will come unexpected to peoples. but if you looks for one you cant seem to find one :'(
Quote from: Diaya on September 22, 2011, 18:14
You guy are so right :goodjob:
LOLS. anyway. love will come unexpected to peoples. but if you looks for one you cant seem to find one :'(
I agree :goodmood:
question, do i date a guy who asked me out even though i don't like him that way and even though he's really nice.
cuz i've never dated before...and i haven't liked anyone in that special way since my first crush...which was...5 years ago >:(
btw, i already said no. it's just that he's my classmate.. i see him almost everyday.:haix: i don't regret my decision. but i was just wondering...
i envy my friends who are in love. but at the same time, i don't. love's pretty scary to me...no matter how much i think i want it.
Thats a complicated question, but personally I would get to know the person better before accepting to date them... Perhaps I'm just overly cautious, but before I get into a relationship I would like to know a lot about her first, lest I turn into an emotional mess when/if she dumps me.
:noway:
Its a balance between caution and good judgement, if you ask me. Perhaps he's an amazingly sweet, dependable guy, but you wouldn't know until you get to know him better.
Quote from: Meiika on September 24, 2011, 09:30
question, do i date a guy who asked me out even though i don't like him that way and even though he's really nice.
cuz i've never dated before...and i haven't liked anyone in that special way since my first crush...which was...5 years ago >:(
btw, i already said no. it's just that he's my classmate.. i see him almost everyday.:haix: i don't regret my decision. but i was just wondering...
i envy my friends who are in love. but at the same time, i don't. love's pretty scary to me...no matter how much i think i want it.
I have dated yet never dated... One guy asked me out and I said yes although I didn't like him in any special way. In the end we never went on a date... :=X:
I don't envy those people who are in love they always seem to obsessed with each other and then they break up and they hate each other... :haix:
Quote from: Luis on September 24, 2011, 11:44
Thats a complicated question, but personally I would get to know the person better before accepting to date them... Perhaps I'm just overly cautious, but before I get into a relationship I would like to know a lot about her first, lest I turn into an emotional mess when/if she dumps me.
:noway:
Its a balance between caution and good judgement, if you ask me. Perhaps he's an amazingly sweet, dependable guy, but you wouldn't know until you get to know him better.
I guess you're right to say that it is a balance
Never dated. Always tried to avoid people or such things from happening at school, yet been asked out a few times.
Have had an average of one heartache/crush a year during school. Painful, painful experience. :crywithno:
I had a kiddie crush in middle school, but now I'm a loner and proud of it. XD
Is it sappy to say that I'm waiting for the right person?
Quote from: Ryu on October 26, 2011, 18:22
I had a kiddie crush in middle school, but now I'm a loner and proud of it. XD
Is it sappy to say that I'm waiting for the right person?
HELL NO! I'd have to say the same thing.
:=X:
Hehe, that's reassuring.
Good :goodmood:
I've seen too many people wanting a relationship with the wrong person and then witnessing how annoying it all is. Love is patience; so wait 'til you feel like the right person is by you. But, becareful; the heart can be just as deceiving *stress
I'm at that point in life where a lot of my friends are prioritizing finding a boyfriend/girlfriend. :/
One of my close friends was dating a boy who was several years older than her. He was in senior year, so he was getting ready to graduate.
The main problem was her parents. They didn't approve of her having a boyfriend because they think that he would distract her from school and athletics.
He was a very nice guy. Valentine's Day for my friend and her boyfriend was SO sweet... He wrote her a song and they exchanged roses. X3
UNFORTUNATELY, my friend's parents found out about them (you know, that parents that want her to study, not date?), so it was pretty much done.
They broke up very messily, and it was really sad to watch such a good relationship fall apart. :(
Now, my friend is so wary about dating, and she keeps advising me about waiting.
THAT'S EXACTLY THE SAME TYPE OF PARENT (well, mom) I HAVE :noway:
I've had about 5 guy friends throughout my life as of now.
So sad to hear that. My bestie had boyfriends w/o her parents knowing until she was serious and a little naive of one guy and found out her parents were OK with it.
Guys can be great in the sense that they can be the motivation and assistance/support you need/are missing in life.
Yeah, I feel sorry for my friend. And I'm sorry for you. :(
Actually, if I were to get a boyfriend, I think that my parents would jump up and down in joy. =_=
I'm ok with just having male friends as well as female friends.
I get to hear about entirely different perspectives on lots of stuff (i.e. - video games, shopping, chores, sports, small/cute animals, etc.).
Lucky you.
I'm not comfortable with guys AT ALL. Even as "friends."
I'm too young :=X: (14)
And my mom don't allow me to have a boyfriend until I finished my studies :swt:
my mom also says that I am too young to date... (16)
Not that I mind being single... you can enjoy attention from all the boys in the class :woohehe:
I'm ugly :indotz: So I never get much attention.
My mom say my non-smiling face scares people off.
I mean, I can't smile for no reason :swt:
I smile for no reason >>
Smiles are contagious. I smile at creepers and they smile back. Its an awesome reaction because almost immediately after they're like "why am I smiling? o.o" and Im like "score, corrupted another one" :goodjob:
I wish i could smile always...I just couldn't... ???
I try to smile by talking to my sisters. If they're not with me, I just have a straight face and try to "find a happy place" *stress
I hate being out in the public alone :crywithno:
I never loved public :swt:
I don't mind it... :wahaha: as long as I dont have to talk to people... and then I always feel as I am being laughed at :swt:
I actually dreamed to have a partner that as good as handsome as charismatic as it was in my fave shoujo mangas.. :woohehe:
Sometimes we don't always get what we want "ideally"... and it hurts..
Heart broken?? Yes... I cried when the my boyfriend cheated on me. Two timing guy,... >:(
He is my ideal type.. very friendly, gentleman, caring, loveable and handsome..and it hurts when I found that out.. :noway:
but I do have a partner right now.. and I do say that he is "somewhat" opposite of my ideal type and opposite of me.. (gay magnet, short tempered, sulky, good cook, very good in sports and in music (knows how to play many sports and instruments), not gentleman, very practical, very very straight forward and very matured) but we do get along just fine and loved me very much.. :swt:
It is true that Love comes in an unexpected ways.. :bingo:
They do always says that it is always better to have a partner that is somewhat opposite of you. and in my case.. yes.. it is better.. Since I do also have an ex boyfriend that is just like me and it was not a good picture.. :swt:
what a life :=X:
A gay magnet? ???
Anyways, I like the sound of your boyfriend. I always preferred straight-forward guys :=X:
What is love?
Quote from: Yuukii on October 31, 2011, 21:06
A gay magnet? ???
Anyways, I like the sound of your boyfriend. I always preferred straight-forward guys :=X:
Yes.. Magnet.. I mean eventhough I'm with him some girls and gays still dares to get close to them.. It's a headache! :noway:
Yes.. He is very straight forward.. and sometimes he's too honest that we ended up pestering each other....
Do you like someone right now?
Well...I guess I like someone. But it's just some puppy love :=X: I'm still young and inexperienced :shy:
haha young...
The day I start likeing someone, my friends are going to die of shock *dead
Quote from: Yuukii on November 01, 2011, 09:05
Well...I guess I like someone. But it's just some puppy love :=X: I'm still young and inexperienced :shy:
aaaaaah.., puppy love... I miss those days... :love:
It made me feel very old :swt:
It's great to be young and in love.. :love:
How old are you? ???
24... :wahaha:
your 14 right?
Yes :woohehe: I'm still a young naive girl *skip
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young... :=X:
Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young... :=X:
I agree... hahahah! :wahaha:
Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young... :=X:
What does that make me?! I'm 18! XD
I have 2 brothers. One 24 and 25. Both are stupid in love :swt:
Quote from: Yuukii on November 03, 2011, 08:57
I have 2 brothers. One 24 and 25. Both are stupid in love :swt:
Actually............... most of us do..
When you experienced being in love... you'll see... :love:
Quote from: Black Miserie on November 02, 2011, 17:12
Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young... :=X:
What does that make me?! I'm 18! XD
Middle aged :=X:
The problem is, my brother (25) got tricked, lost his money (or rather, gave it to the girl) and got tricked into buying anything she wants. Such a...bitch bad girlfriend, isn't she? When she was bored, she left, leaving nothing behind. Took my brother's phone along. And my brother said, forget it. So much money was wasted :'(
I really pity my brothers
Quote from: Yuukii on November 05, 2011, 23:44
The problem is, my brother (25) got tricked, lost his money (or rather, gave it to the girl) and got tricked into buying anything she wants. Such a...bitch bad girlfriend, isn't she? When she was bored, she left, leaving nothing behind. Took my brother's phone along. And my brother said, forget it. So much money was wasted :'(
I really pity my brothers
That girl is a gold digger :swt:
I feel sorry for your brother.. I do hope he will find a better one someday.. :love:
There are many fish in the sea,,, :wahaha:
Fish... My one friend code named her crush fishy so one one would know who we talking about :=X: and then his friend was fishys friend
dont worry... according to that theory i am also middle aged :=X:
Salt on the wound.... my cousin just called me ma'am.... XD I'm gonna go hide now...
:bow: I get called aunty by my cousins :crywithno:
Little kids say the cruellest things in complete innocence.... :'(
I'm 14 and I'm called Aunty :indotz:
:wahaha: here the Afrikaans kids call anyone who they don't know and is older than them Tannie (aunty)
Where are you?
South Africa :=D:
Cool! I'm from South Carolina.... XD
Such a pity and very irritating when family members are "stupid in love."
-Pulls hair out thinking about watashi no ryooshin-
watashi no ryooshi?n ???? ???
Quote from: Renny on November 06, 2011, 03:38
Fish... My one friend code named her crush fishy so one one would know who we talking about :=X: and then his friend was fishys friend
Hahaha, me and my friends used to do that in school. :=X:
We used to give guys code names so we could talk about them without anybody understanding. :=D:
Ah I always hated it when girls started talking in code names, it just made me so curious but they wouldn't tell me who it was even though I knew it wasn't me. I spent 7 years asking the same question to the girl next to me every form time >:( who the heck is strawberry and peanut?!! :noway:
Koyue, it must be tough :=X: Do they feed each other during dinner and go ah~ Honey~ Dear~ Honey~ Dear~ *skip
lol it is fun to talk in code... last year my friend and I code named this other guy monkey... And with codes you can talk to a guy about himself but he wont know that it him that your talking about :=X:
I dont usually do that unless my friends start and i get used to calling the guy by his code name but then i always mess it up for the others because i will tell the guy his code name and then he gets a new one *dead
Haha, yeah!! Lol, my friends would've killed me if I ever revealed a code. :swt:
We started keeping codes mostly coz when we passed notes in class, the people passing them for us used to read our notes. >:(
oh we dont pass notes we chat using our phones :=X:
After 9 bf's, 1 was dated twice, I think my love life is complete... and I'm only 16. :noway: The longest relationship was a year, the rest ranged from like 1 week (LOL failure with that one) to 7 months (most fall in the 3-5). You'd think dating at 13 was like... early, or I thought it was early, but if you and your partner are mature enough, then being in a relationship was fine. I don't like seeing those relationships where all they do is pda (public display o' affection) and like... (since this was 3 years ago, myspace was still decent...) myspace each other. My last relationship lasted 7 months, and out of the rest, he really was the one imo. But things got in the way and it just ended so badly. And now he thinks it's funny to show off to me by going to parties and talking about this and that girl like they were objects.
What's worst is that this makes me feel that I made guys change. They were so wonderfully nice, and they could do no wrong, but after we break up, it's the end. They become penors... not just to me, but everyone else.
wow what a life you have had! I have had a total of (drum roll please) 0 boyfriends :wahaha: unless you call me being asked out twice by the same boy and then have him forget me in a week just because he doesn't live close by... :=D:
It's ok, you're still young, there's plenty of fish in the sea
I find moments where you're in a relationship and you wish you single, and vice versa, to be funny moments. Like... how ironic.
... is it nice to be old? :=D:
I wanna be old and young at the same time, mmhm, like live a very very very very long time while still being young? that would be nice. *skip
Quote from: blobsndrees on December 17, 2011, 15:02
I wanna be old and young at the same time, mmhm, like live a very very very very long time while still being young? that would be nice. *skip
lol dont we all
ah...
I'm still helplessly in love with my fictional manga characters and korean idols...>.<
ahhhh...love...I could sing you a song about that....
well, so far I've had 2 boyfriends, not a lot, but oh well. I try to be caful of who I pick.
but last time that backfired pretty badly :indotz: ...really I didn't know that men could be that fucked up...
*sigh* nah, it's over now and as a result I'm even more careful now. I hardly let anyone near me and I think my psyche is probably pretty fucked up now :swt:
I still hope to find "the one" and I have someone that I can imagine I'd like to have by my side, but he lives on the other side of the world...
ok enough of that. in short, my love life sucks, I need love really badly but I don't get it ... tadaaaaa :haix:
moving on...
(only just noticed that I'm rambling pretty badly up there...)
Mine suck too.
I had around 5 6 (yeah I had forgotten one -_-") boyfriends so far, and it never went over 3 weeks.
I've a crush, go out with him, then get bored after 2weeks and break up.
What's interesting is conquering the other. I hope I'll find someone interesting someday !! (Or at least, someone who'll never stop surprising me xD )
Should I try girls now ? :shy:
I'm a girl !! It's right, then ? xD (They can have girlfriends ? :=D:
Quote from: Ordog on March 13, 2012, 05:55
Should I try girls now ? :shy:
You know what, I actually thought about that. Cause when you look at all the shit that boyfriends tend to do, I really sometimes think that getting a girlfriend would actually be better... it's kinda depressing
I don't see what's "depressing" 'bout it... If you're talking bout the girls part (Maybe I'm just too open-minded...), the "what boyfriends tend to do"-part is far beyond "depressing"
I've made bad choices myself, (luckily) I overcame it... but... it changed my view on things, and right now, considering my relationships, I don't think "love" really exists, at least not in the way most understand it. (I won't say more on this, I don't wanna crush anyone's view on "love") It's complicated, and in addition, I'm not a "lovey-dovey" person, I don't think I'll ever be able to become one.
- Yes, I tried, but it didn't last a week... before I was completely worn out..
It's hard to try to find a good guy, cuz good guys don't throw themselves at you. and even if you do manage to find a good guy, the good guy will probably already be dedicated to someone else. You might as well try the lottery, you have a higher chance of winning some money than finding a good guy.
I meant the guy part (sry if that didn't go over as I wanted it to)
I think it would be pretty damn nice to find the "right" girl, but that's really hard around here... damn all those oldfashioned and closeminded people... >:(
haha, you know what, let's just all play lottery instead and then all our problems will be solved :=D:
After winning the lottery, we'd all go buy good guys is what you mean?
Or should we try to win a guy in the lottery? xD
What's depressing is to search for a girlfriend because you can't find any good one among guys! And turn to girls 'cause you don't like the other alternative, not because you are actually attracted by girls.
I mean, it would be less spontaneous, more because of your brain, than our heart or...body ? xD
Even though it could comme later.
what I meant was good guys are near impossible to get because there's just too many bad guys, and not only that, they don't stand out unless your lucky enough for them to be interested in you.
But even if you do manage to be lucky enough to notice a good guy among the trashcan of bad guys, there's a high chance he's already with someone else.
Oh by the way, I'm talking about their personalities not the amount of money in their wallets :dignose:
play in the lottery and see if by chance you will win a boyfriend instead of or better even in addition to the money :D
I guess for me it doesn't really matter if my partner is a girl or a guy. If I love/want to be together with that person, then the gender is of no concern for me...
guess that makes me Bi :hmmm:
I dated my first boyfriend for... what was it... maybe around 3 years. I don't know why we broke up or who broke up with home... :swt:
So I'm still wondering about that.
The second boyfriend, that son of a ***, hmmm, I think I dated him... 2 months before he effed it up. He was so lucky he wasn't home when I came back to get my stuff... :heeee:
can I ask you something: just what do you do when the one person you want to be together with lives on the other side of the world? do I tell him?
hmmm, is that really enough for you? just skyping?
I mean, cause I'm skyping with that guy I was talking about as well, but I don't think it's a good idea to get together if we hardly ever see each other in real life...
I guess that you didn't get your boyfriend through skype but actually got together while you were within reach of each other, right?
ouch, well let's hope he doesn't find out...
are you planning to go back anytime soon? are you visiting him/is he visiting you sometimes?
I thought I was at one point. :'( Though no, I don't think I've ever actually been in love. Oh, and on the topic of relationships, hilariously enough... I've been broken up with before, because I was too nice. :=X: I have to win an award for lameness on that one lol! I've chosen the "single" life for now though, relationships have just been too much hassle for me lately anyway. ^^
Raynes one and only and still current boyfriend ( LOTS and LOTS of boytoys though )who she has been dating for 3.5 years is named Abhi. He's Indian, and if I don't love him, then by gosh love does not exist in this world. Plus he's really cute <3 in a tan teddy bear kind of way. Oh, and he's also a vegetarian, which makes my life like a million times easier when it comes to going out to eat. Yeah, we argue about certain things (Like how he's always ALWAYS late and I am always ALWAYS early) But the cuddle time outweighs the argue time x10.
Rayne is smitten :love:
And she loves her Abhi.
That is so CUTE~
:o_o:
Gah, you're making me jealous, Rayneeeee
Ah never thought i'd be posting here but here goes nothing. :blur:
Well, I think I'm in love, but I don't know whether it's really love? I know this is something that many people are asking themselves, but I know too that many people who have found their 'true love' are sure of it.
I always see and hear from everywhere (especially in movies xD), that they tell you to follow your heart and your sixth sense or something. But how exactly do you "follow your heart" and actually know what it tells you? I don't want to sink too deep into this whole 'love' thing unless I'm sure it's going to be something fruitful. In other words, I don't want both parties to be hurt in the end -if- we actually start progressing and then spiral into a deep dark hole which could be prevented if I take a step back now and put some distance.
Somehow it feels like everything's progressing a tad too fast, and I'm starting to feel a bit of fear mixed with happiness? If that makes sense?
Sorry for being so pessimistic but I'm really not the type of person to take a leap of faith. And having almost zero experience in this doesn't make things any better. Oh, and having a heavy workload from school isn't helping either. It's like ARGH I wanna study, get out of my head!
Any thoughts?
On a side note, gosh I so feel like burying myself in a hole right now. :indotz:
Quote from: Ryu on March 23, 2012, 06:10
That is so CUTE~
:o_o:
Gah, you're making me jealous, Rayneeeee
Haha, It's nothing too be too jealous about. When I say 3.5 years I mean off and on. Lol. But he's helped me out a lot in life. Dug me out of my ditch when I was at my lowest, and I thank him everyday of my life for it. Lol, there's someone out there for everyone.
Quote from: Rioui on March 23, 2012, 06:34
He's a vegetarian.. :woohehe: (why am I thinking dirty thoughts =.=) :swt:
._. I have no idea....
Quote from: charmy on March 27, 2012, 11:12
Ah never thought i'd be posting here but here goes nothing. :blur:
Well, I think I'm in love, but I don't know whether it's really love? I know this is something that many people are asking themselves, but I know too that many people who have found their 'true love' are sure of it.
I always see and hear from everywhere (especially in movies xD), that they tell you to follow your heart and your sixth sense or something. But how exactly do you "follow your heart" and actually know what it tells you? I don't want to sink too deep into this whole 'love' thing unless I'm sure it's going to be something fruitful. In other words, I don't want both parties to be hurt in the end -if- we actually start progressing and then spiral into a deep dark hole which could be prevented if I take a step back now and put some distance.
Somehow it feels like everything's progressing a tad too fast, and I'm starting to feel a bit of fear mixed with happiness? If that makes sense?
Sorry for being so pessimistic but I'm really not the type of person to take a leap of faith. And having almost zero experience in this doesn't make things any better. Oh, and having a heavy workload from school isn't helping either. It's like ARGH I wanna study, get out of my head!
Any thoughts?
On a side note, gosh I so feel like burying myself in a hole right now. :indotz:
Well, my thoughts on the matter, is that you can still take things slow even after the said "leap of faith" Rayne may be very experienced now, but she didn't start out that way, I'm pretty sure I had a panic attack the first time someone confessed, and nearly fainted the first time I was kissed, but now it's nearly second nature. It's all about getting comfortable with the person. If you can't be comfortable then you won't work, but sometimes it can take time to get comfortable.
As for studying, school should always come first. End of story.
I hope that helped you out a bit :goodmood:
~Rayne~
Love is complicated. Nothing more, nothing less.
2 boyfriends so far, none at the moment..
Last one dumped me quite harshly, though F****** facebook.. ROAR :angry1:
My sister told me, I hadn't even seen it yet... Stupid bastard... I was very much heartbroken, since I thought everything was perfect and happy. We were together almost half a year... Almost a year ago now and I still get mad over it... :indotz: kinda pathatic...
Any advice to stop getting angry over it?
Quote from: L-Angel on April 08, 2012, 07:54
Love is complicated. Nothing more, nothing less.
2 boyfriends so far, none at the moment..
Last one dumped me quite harshly, though F****** facebook.. ROAR :angry1:
My sister told me, I hadn't even seen it yet... Stupid bastard... I was very much heartbroken, since I thought everything was perfect and happy. We were together almost half a year... Almost a year ago now and I still get mad over it... :indotz: kinda pathatic...
Any advice to stop getting angry over it?
I think the best thing for that, honestly, is talking to them about it. Like, I know it's probably not something that you particularly want to do, and it's something that can take a lot of courage to do. I was in a similar situation, he wasn't my boyfriend, but I liked him very much indeed, and he liked me, we just hadn't gotten to the whole "dating" thing. Anyway, apparently I did something to make him mad and he just like snapped and got really mad at me, and I didn't talk to him for a few weeks after that, but then I started to realize that every time I thought about him or the situation I got really mad. So, I decided to talk it out with him. And I have to say it was probably one of the best things I could have done. I felt better about it, he apologized and felt better about it, and while we never dated (We came close to again) he's still one of my very best friends and someone I can always readily depend on. Like when my car broke down 20 miles away and my boyfriend was out of town -.- He drove to get me.... Anyway, I don't know if it'll turn out the same way for you or not, but it can't hurt to try.
Lol, sorry for all the words.
Hahaha, thanks Rayne! But that is never going to happen. He even mailed me that I shouldn't text or anything, since he wouldn't answer anyeay. I just snapped a bit at that moment and completely chewed him out. I felt better only after shopping my heart out. (and my allowance..) and talking to him now, after almost a year. No thanks, I sort of moved on and I just don't feel like going through the trouble again. I'm glad it worked out for you though. :) Besides, I heard he became ugly and fat after he dumped me, so I get my small childish satisfaction off of that ^-^
Ah, sorry for the rant! But explaining takes up a LOT of words... (a concept I'm sure you are familiar with.. ;) )
Quote from: L-Angel on April 08, 2012, 13:28
Hahaha, thanks Rayne! But that is never going to happen. He even mailed me that I shouldn't text or anything, since he wouldn't answer anyeay. I just snapped a bit at that moment and completely chewed him out. I felt better only after shopping my heart out. (and my allowance..) and talking to him now, after almost a year. No thanks, I sort of moved on and I just don't feel like going through the trouble again. I'm glad it worked out for you though. :) Besides, I heard he became ugly and fat after he dumped me, so I get my small childish satisfaction off of that ^-^
Ah, sorry for the rant! But explaining takes up a LOT of words... (a concept I'm sure you are familiar with.. ;) )
Haha, well if you've pretty much gotten over it, then there's no reason to worry. Plus you had your childish satisfaction. When you find yourself getting angry about it, just remind yourself that you're better than that and him.
I still find myself getting mad about my boyfriends ex. It was a big, huge, complicated, emotional roller coaster of an ordeal that doesn't necessarily need to be gotten into. Anyway, we were going through some of his old stuff, and there was a spider-man picture that she drew him, and without a word I picked it up, took it outside, got out my lighter, and set it on fire. Lol, so yeah, Rayne is not above petty behavior, and it did make me feel better. Haha, so yeah, I totally understand.
I hope everything works out for you.
True, I am above it. WAY above it ^-^
I like your action, no I love it. You kick ass! I think I would have had the same reaction, muhahaha.
It will, I'm sure! Now it is time to find another boyto...friend (^_^)
I've had two boyfriends. My first boyfriend I don't even really count as a real relationship because we were just together because it was "cool". Yeah. That was 4th through 7th grade until I was crushing on another guy.
Then after 8th grade I met my current fiance. Who is 6 years old then I. Yes. I was 14 and he had just turned 21 when we met. I know some are like. "OMG NO!! That's so wrong!" But before you go there it's been THREE YEARS and we're still going on strong. I'm moving in with him this summer. :D I truly believe he is my soul mate. We plan on getting married after I finish college. We've had our ups and downs like every couple but we still love each other truly and deeply.
My mom didn't approve of the relationship at first but after a year she started letting him visit and then after my surgery last year she's pretty much decided he is part of the family now. :love:
He is my sweetheart and my love and he has always been there for me and supported me. I just realized that sentence had a lot of "ands."
But I'll stop rambling now. :swt:
:touched: that is so cute! I'm kind of jealous now....
Share some of that luck in love with me, will you? Please? :o_o:
Of course! *sprinkles her love luck around* :love:
*dances around in the sprinkles* yay! Thank you *skip
I'm single and so sad :'(
I want fall in love but the guys don't know what mean the word LOVE... They are very immature ! (They are 14)
HELP ME !! :noway:
Hahah yup !
Most guys your age are very immature, but just wait! Once you get older hopefully you find someone who is mature enough, because not all of them will grow up ! :goodjob:
You've got plenty of time. So there's no need to rush. ^^
Advice for now: try aiming for the older guys. Preferably one year older.
And don't go looking for it. It will come eventually. Love happens, not found.
Thank you girls !
But I'm lonely... I know I'm young but it's very hard to hear my friends talk about their wonderful relationship... And the older guys just want to fuck (sorry for the word) girls and run away. It's really despairing:crywithno:
But I want have a boyfriend who is nice and attentive...
No problem!
Don't worry so much over what your friends do! Being single is nice, not bound to one guy for a while.
Not all older guys are like that, only a few who ruin the image of all the older guys...
We all do, and eventually most of us will find our prince charming :)
Don't stress over it, it will come.
Yup! Angel is right.
Your prince will come when you least expect it and when you need him the most so don't look too hard!
You'll find the right guy. :D If you're lonely talk to us! We're your friends and we'll try our best to help you. :D
You're so lovely !! I love you girls !! :love:
You rassure me very much!! Thank you, I feel better... I'll wait my prince with more patience...
:bye:
Love you too ela~ :love:
I'm glad you feel better! Any time you feel anxious again, just let me know!
Patience is good :)
[but try to go to parties and such, meeting cute guys there is a good shot ;) ]
Seeyouaround!! :o_o:
I'll remember it !! :goodjob:
Yeah! Saturday, I'm going to go visite my future High School... Maybe my love is waiting after me?? (I hope !!) I know I'm naive...
Great! :goodjob:
You never know, with new places come new chances right? :woohehe:
Just be yourself and everything will work out smoothly :)
Thank you ! I love you :love:
Yeah I know it ! Don't care about it ! I'm always natural and funny :=D:
Love you tooo ela!! :love:
Good job!! Way to have confidence x'D You go girl! :goodjob:
Angel :love:
Yeah !!! Go go go !
Ela~ :love:
Let me know when you spotted some cute guys!! Let me enjoy as well :woohehe:
Of course my Angel :shy:
You helped me and I'm no longer sad . So, as soon as I spot a nice guy, I'll tell you right away
I helped you too, yeah? :o_o:
Because I love my Ela! And I love talking to her :love:
but i don't need a guy cuz I've got one ;D
Oh what !!! I forgot Roze !!! I'm very bad !!
Of course you too my Roze :love:
I love talking to you more !
Its okay. You won't forget me anymore right? :o_o:
Yay, thanks ela~! :love:
What about me Roze? :o_o:
*feels left out*
Of course! I love my Angel too.
She listens to my ramblings about my stories :love:
Love my Roze toooo :love:
She tells me interesting things and listens to my ramblings about my story (that's kinda sad...€ too! :o_o:
/me is bound to be forever alone :touched:
also protip. we boys are quite blind in seeing that a girl likes us. i had it a few times that a girl liked me but i just didnt noticed because yeah. how the hell are we supposed to see that
Poor guy.... But that's not true, there is somebody for everybody!
Tip: try paying attention when a girl seems to be interested.
Guys are really dense! [No offense to any guys]
But seriously! My fiance can't take a hint either. It's gotten to the point that I've just gotta just tell him straight out instead of hinting around it. :touched:
I don't think it helps that all girls a different about hinting when they like a guy because we can be different. Some girls will ignore the guy, some will pay special attention to them. Girls can be real confusing sometimes. But so can guys. :p
But I agree with Angel. You'll find someone! Just pay attention! I know some common hints would be a girl laughing. I know I giggled and laughed a lot (even at the not so funny jokes) when I was introduced to my fiance. Fiddling with hair and stuff is also another hint. A girl is likely to have a high/inviting voice and talk soft when interested. Eye contact is key as well.
I could go on buuttt I'll stop rambling. You prolly don't want/need a lecture. :=X:
Good job roze! i'm sure he will feel better now xD
ha ha.
I hope that isn't sarcasm
:touched:
Nooooo, sorry roze!
I re-read it and it does look like sarcasm.....
Oops.. But I didn't mean it that way okay?
I still love my Roze :love:
Oh okay. I was like :crywithno: for a second.
I'm glad you didn't mean it that way
:swt:
I love my angel too~ :love:
Yay, so glad it is all cleared up!t
Roze~~~~ :love: