Eh.. Love.

Diaya · August 09, 2011, 18:21

So who here have fallen in love before???Or have their heart broken? Or just have an unrequited love?? Or just want to fall in love??What do you think about love? Do we need love?? O_O Why is love even existed?? LOL.

Well, I didn't see a thread about love so I decide to make one. hehe. Btw, if there a thread about love already or whatever. sorry i was to lazy to search for it LLOLS.

Ryu · August 09, 2011, 18:59

Ooh, a thread about love~

DISCLAIMER: These are the words of inherent cynic. Don't take them to heart.

Well, I've never truly been in love before, but I've had my fair share of crushes.
And I've known others who are sickeningly in love.

The way many people speak about love these days makes it seem so hard to 'maintain'. So, I'm not particularly interested in falling in love, but I think it'd be nice to experience it one day. :)

Love also seems a bit scary. I had a friend who was dating a guy a few years older than her, but they were working it out. It was so sweet to see him write a poem to her for Valentine's Day~

However, a problem arose when my friend's parents found out about her boyfriend. They disapproved of her dating because, quote, "It interferes with your school work." My friend broke up with the guy, but did it badly. It doesn't seem like he wants to let her go, so she's now giving him the cold shoulder. I feel so sorry for the dude.
Especially since my friend recently met another guy and is now interested in him (but her parents don't know about him at all).

I just hate how love seems so fickle. It's like when I read a manga where a girl falls in love with the popular boy at school while not noticing her caring childhood friend (who she often thinks of as a little brother, not a love interest).
I also like the idea of 'waiting for the right person', but, really, what's the chance of finding someone I could potentially spend the rest of my life happily with?
It's not impossible, but it's definitely HARD, right?

Diaya · August 09, 2011, 19:18

Oh-la-ha. Ryu

I think ...think.. I have at least uh..1..2...3..4 boyfriend in the past

Oh yeah, right now I have cute boyfriend which is currently dating.

:3 .. so that make 5 so far. O_O i have the same problem like most asian kids do or maybe all.

any way. o-o i have to keep my dating a secret from my parents O_O asian parents of course.
they keep say love interfere with eduction

well whatever.. lols

Ryu · August 09, 2011, 20:09

Whoa, you're on number 5?!

Are you just dating because you can, or are you trying to actually find 'the one'?

lol. Actually, now that I think about it, my parents are a little abnormal for Asian parents. If I got a boyfriend, they would be ecstatic.

I have an older brother who hasn't dated EVER (just like me. =_=), and I know that they've definitely noticed that.

idk

How's dating? Is it fun most of the time, or is it hard to maintain a good relationship?

icewing · August 10, 2011, 00:24

=_= icey can't even think about dating after college OTL

and i've never liked anyone seriously. lol. KOREAN IDOLS AND FICTIONAL MANGA CHARACTERS FTW. they keep me away from boys...xD which is what i'm trying to do as of now...

O_O 5 BOYFRIENDS?! WHOA...

Renny · August 10, 2011, 13:00

Never had a boyfriend... never been in love... Cant date till im out of my parents house...

Well what the hell... Love is sooo onfusing not so simple like in mangas...

Diaya · August 10, 2011, 15:02

Hmm.
@Ryu , i am dating to lookin for the one and sometime for fun
Dating is sometime fun, and sometime not Yesh it hard to maintain a relationship
dating is awesome cause you get to cuddle

@icewing , Yep 5 boyfriend and might be my last

@Renny , but it so fun.. lols well sometime

What the heck.. Love is awesome.. still lookin for a dude who is like a manga character

Ryu · August 10, 2011, 15:11

Haha... I see!

Yeah, I would to find someone who was like Yamamoto Takeshi from Katekyo Hitman Reborn!
He's so nice!

Diaya · August 10, 2011, 15:17

hehe

i like dude who is like ....the samurai dude from shugo chara..

icewing · August 11, 2011, 05:24

now we're getting into our fantasies...>.<

i like the melted-down/cuter/nicer/softer hibari-san <3

i know that's impossible. but YOU NEVER KNOW!! :3

Ryu · August 11, 2011, 10:53

lol lol HIBARI as a BOYFRIEND!

That would be very interesting to see. He only shows his nice side to little animalsssss...

But as he is now, I still don't know how he got first on the spouse poll. XD

Haha, I was talking with a friend the other day, and we somehow started dreaming about how we'd like KHR characters to be related to us.
My friend wanted Yamamoto as her husband, Tsuna as her lil bro, Dino as her big bro, and Hibari as her cousin.
I agreed with her on all but Hibari, and I also added that I would love to have Gokudera as my bff and Ryohei as my uncle.

And Reborn as my tutor. NOT.

We shared a moment of silence before bursting out in laughter.

Renny · August 11, 2011, 11:07

lol I wish there could be love like you read it in mangas...

Hmmm... what about usui as a boyfriend??

Catriona · August 18, 2011, 22:32

Ehh Diaya, first of all, 5 boyfriend?! And you are entering high school O_o

Please don't break your heart and protect yourself against bad boys! Also, stay safe [you know what I mean].

THAT IS FOR ALL YOUR LADIES OUT THERE.

~~~

I only had 1 that lasted 8 months. I suppose the usual relationship has rises and falls, eventually things don't work out any more and break up happens. For me, I broke up with him and it was bad. Now he is dating my ex-best friend, but I have no objections [screw those idiotic traditions]. It was hard for me to accept this reality at first, got depressed and messed up second half of junior year [BIG MISTAKE! But hey, I didn't fail that badly ;)]

So... treasure the time you have with a kind boy, and don't be a whiny brat like those manga girls. That was my mistake, I suppose. Also, there is no fantasy or romance you see in manga or movies. Maybe at first, but eventually it is just the comfortable zone. Lastly, DRAMA QUEEN is a big no no. He can't comfort and be with you all the time, so remember to be independent and stay away from him sometimes too.

Catriona · August 18, 2011, 22:34

I guess the best advice I can give to you is that real love is not what you see in manga or movies. Of course, after several boyfriends you will know how to deal with your future husband and work out a long lasting relationship!

I personally think that most guys you date CAN work out with you. It is just how much effort you two put in. Of course, sometimes there are obvious mismatches but hey, arranged marriages do work xD

Diaya · August 20, 2011, 14:27

Thank you. Catriona.. XD

lol you do have great advice XD...
mHm.. I wannt get married but ppl say im too young

Mister Want · August 20, 2011, 17:55

I agree with Catriona. You're pretty right about that--"most guys you date CAN work out with you". It's all a matter of how much effort you put in, time and everything.

I think there is one thing important for love, and that is to develop yourself. If you don't develop yourself, you're going to be lost in the relationship. Because if you have nothing to yourself, and all you have is on him--it's not very balanced at all. It's too much pressure on him. But if you have something to yourself, like a hobby or whatever, it helps. Because you don't always need to be with him. Though love is strange, and you do want to be with the person you like a lot. I'm not explaining this very well. But I think it's important for both person in the relationship to have a "self".

Anyway, as for myself, I've only had one relationship (2 months). That was back in my junior year. I had the Asian parents as well that goes, you shouldn't date till college. Well, needless to say, I really liked this guy so we dated in secret from our parents. But I felt guilty, so I eventually confessed to my mom. My mom didn't like that, so I broke up with him. I still feel a bit guilty about it though because he never got a proper explanation on why, and I didn't break up with him because I didn't like him. Utter failure.

Sharwin · August 20, 2011, 19:33

Time for Sharwin's words of wisdom.

Love is when two people join at the groin.

Furgeson · August 20, 2011, 21:08

How sentimental, Sharwin. Werr the scary says "Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

Miller · August 28, 2011, 14:41

The important thing is to remember that love doesn't stick to a recipe. There aren't any set ingredients (other than two people, and that's...debatable) or steps or cooking times to insure a tasty baked item. You basically have to wing it—and while it can be scary not having a guide, it also means you get to make your own rules.

ruraine · August 28, 2011, 21:52

You guys are all so eloquent =/

Hmm love. I have a partner of 3 years and we have already mapped out the next 30 years of financial expenditure (mortgage #1, stupid wedding in two countries, cranky kids and their extorbitant school fees, mortgage #2). We have even discussed the future division of labour within the household and expectations for cohabitation.

At this point you're probably thinking: Whuuuuuut... sounds like a contract.

Well, it is--a social contract between partners. We're willingly entering into this contract because we both assume that this nebulous concept of "love" exists, and that it exists between us.

For him, love is spending most of his money on me, and spending Friday nights at my house instead of out drinking with his friends. It is about changing his lifestyle (start exercising) and diet (no more going to his beloved McDonalds) so that I don't worry about his health. It's about meeting my family and going to meals with them even though he feels really uncomfortable at those outings. And it's about calling me once in a while, even though he really hates talking on the phone.

For me, love is thinking about him first thing when I wake up, last thing before I sleep. It is about buying his favourite cheese and drinks when I'm at the supermarket, and spending 3 hours cooking shepherd's pie for him. It's letting him go out with his friends and game into the night. It's giving him a foot rub after he's had a long day at work. It's about sitting through movie episodes that he loves but I hate. It's also about being willing to sacrifice a couple of new dresses so that I can get him new jeans instead.

And for both of us, love is about making sure we make those incremental changes now so that when the time comes, we slip into a comfortable and easy life together, and lead the loving life we want to, instead of letting everything crash in all at once and (and losing the person who matters most to us).

What is your love like?

Miller · August 28, 2011, 22:10

Quote from: ruraine on August 28, 2011, 21:52
You guys are all so eloquent =/

Hmm love. I have a partner of 3 years and we have already mapped out the next 30 years of financial expenditure (mortgage #1, stupid wedding in two countries, cranky kids and their extorbitant school fees, mortgage #2). We have even discussed the future division of labour within the household and expectations for cohabitation.

At this point you're probably thinking: Whuuuuuut... sounds like a contract.

Well, it is--a social contract between partners. We're willingly entering into this contract because we both assume that this nebulous concept of "love" exists, and that it exists between us.

For him, love is spending most of his money on me, and spending Friday nights at my house instead of out drinking with his friends. It is about changing his lifestyle (start exercising) and diet (no more going to his beloved McDonalds) so that I don't worry about his health. It's about meeting my family and going to meals with them even though he feels really uncomfortable at those outings. And it's about calling me once in a while, even though he really hates talking on the phone.

For me, love is thinking about him first thing when I wake up, last thing before I sleep. It is about buying his favourite cheese and drinks when I'm at the supermarket, and spending 3 hours cooking shepherd's pie for him. It's letting him go out with his friends and game into the night. It's giving him a foot rub after he's had a long day at work. It's about sitting through movie episodes that he loves but I hate. It's also about being willing to sacrifice a couple of new dresses so that I can get him new jeans instead.

And for both of us, love is about making sure we make those incremental changes now so that when the time comes, we slip into a comfortable and easy life together, and lead the loving life we want to, instead of letting everything crash in all at once and (and losing the person who matters most to us).

What is your love like?

Eloquent? I almost said, "Love is him getting to fart in bed and you choosing to stay with him anyway. Are you sure you still want it?" but figured it might leave a scar.

But yes, the good kind of love definitely requires sacrifice of some sort—on both sides, ideally. Very nicely and lyrically-in-a-way-that-makes-me-think-you-write-in-your-spare-time put, Ruraine.

werr · August 29, 2011, 04:11

Quote from: Furgeson on August 20, 2011, 21:08
How sentimental, Sharwin. Werr the scary says "Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

And I stand by that. Though what Sharwie says is cynically correct too.

Diaya · September 11, 2011, 11:28

Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love.

but i do envy peoples who are in love tho.

it pity that i am starting to hate my life

i got me lots of homework and stuff and problem

Worst of all. I just got dump

well i learn a lesson now. never to fall in love again

haha.. what u gonna do with love..

Miller · September 13, 2011, 08:39

Quote from: Diaya on September 11, 2011, 11:28
Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love.

Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese

Luis · September 13, 2011, 11:02

Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese
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Sitting around waiting for happiness (or love in this case) to fall in your lap is quite overly optimistic if you ask me. I've been trying that for the last ten years or so and its just pretty much gotten me ignored.

If you want anything good out of life, love, money, success, a stable relationship, etc., its something you have to work at and find for yourself. Just expecting things to fall out of the sky on you will just leave you disappointed and possibly depressed.

Personally, I find love as the condition of willingness to give up certain comforts, pleasures, desires, time, effort, dreams, etc. in order to obtain the companionship, respect, and faithfulness of someone else. Its expected that both sides will make sacrifices to one degree or another due to how much they value each other rather than simply looking for what they can "get out of" the relationship for themselves. In this perspective, its a lot more about the personality of the other person than their looks. Sure, you won't probably fall in love with someone who you find repulsive, and being easy on the eyes certainly helps, but I find most people's criteria much too biased towards looks. If I could find someone who could bear to deal with my personality and isn't too put off by my looks then I would be more than happy to make some pretty drastic lifestyle changes.

The problem is, I'm absolutely terrible at reading romantic vibes or the lack thereof, so in the end I'm left wondering if I even have a chance at love at all. All the jerks who are upfront and blunt with how shallow they really are tend to capture all the attention.

In the end I'm left wondering if there is even a place for the sentimental, polite, and kind in the world.

So in the end I'm stuck watching anime and reading manga about relationships and banging my head on the wall in mild irritation as my roommates act like complete idiots in their own relationships.

I'm type-casted as the friend, darn it, and feel free to call me a cynic if you must but it seems I am just destined to be alone.

That's pretty much my take on love... Be active, be willing to give up things, and even if you are all those things it still might not work out. That's just how it goes these days.

Renny · September 17, 2011, 11:27

Quote from: Miller on September 13, 2011, 08:39
Quote from: Diaya on September 11, 2011, 11:28
Mhm. I don't care about falling in love or be in love.

Actually, that's probably the best state to be in. Don't look for it, let it find you. /cheese

Thats how it goes... be happy with being single!! it's my motto

You wont be complaining about a broken heart

Diaya · September 22, 2011, 18:14

You guy are so right

LOLS. anyway. love will come unexpected to peoples. but if you looks for one you cant seem to find one

Renny · September 23, 2011, 07:02

Quote from: Diaya on September 22, 2011, 18:14
You guy are so right

LOLS. anyway. love will come unexpected to peoples. but if you looks for one you cant seem to find one

I agree

Meiika · September 24, 2011, 09:30

question, do i date a guy who asked me out even though i don't like him that way and even though he's really nice.

cuz i've never dated before...and i haven't liked anyone in that special way since my first crush...which was...5 years ago

btw, i already said no. it's just that he's my classmate.. i see him almost everyday.

i don't regret my decision. but i was just wondering...

i envy my friends who are in love. but at the same time, i don't. love's pretty scary to me...no matter how much i think i want it.

Luis · September 24, 2011, 11:44

Thats a complicated question, but personally I would get to know the person better before accepting to date them... Perhaps I'm just overly cautious, but before I get into a relationship I would like to know a lot about her first, lest I turn into an emotional mess when/if she dumps me.

Its a balance between caution and good judgement, if you ask me. Perhaps he's an amazingly sweet, dependable guy, but you wouldn't know until you get to know him better.

Renny · September 25, 2011, 12:37

Quote from: Meiika on September 24, 2011, 09:30
question, do i date a guy who asked me out even though i don't like him that way and even though he's really nice.

cuz i've never dated before...and i haven't liked anyone in that special way since my first crush...which was...5 years ago

btw, i already said no. it's just that he's my classmate.. i see him almost everyday. i don't regret my decision. but i was just wondering...

i envy my friends who are in love. but at the same time, i don't. love's pretty scary to me...no matter how much i think i want it.

I have dated yet never dated... One guy asked me out and I said yes although I didn't like him in any special way. In the end we never went on a date...

I don't envy those people who are in love they always seem to obsessed with each other and then they break up and they hate each other...

Quote from: Luis on September 24, 2011, 11:44
Thats a complicated question, but personally I would get to know the person better before accepting to date them... Perhaps I'm just overly cautious, but before I get into a relationship I would like to know a lot about her first, lest I turn into an emotional mess when/if she dumps me.

Its a balance between caution and good judgement, if you ask me. Perhaps he's an amazingly sweet, dependable guy, but you wouldn't know until you get to know him better.

I guess you're right to say that it is a balance

Koyue · October 26, 2011, 13:53

Never dated. Always tried to avoid people or such things from happening at school, yet been asked out a few times.

Have had an average of one heartache/crush a year during school. Painful, painful experience.

Ryu · October 26, 2011, 18:22

I had a kiddie crush in middle school, but now I'm a loner and proud of it. XD
Is it sappy to say that I'm waiting for the right person?

Koyue · October 26, 2011, 18:43

Quote from: Ryu on October 26, 2011, 18:22
I had a kiddie crush in middle school, but now I'm a loner and proud of it. XD
Is it sappy to say that I'm waiting for the right person?

HELL NO! I'd have to say the same thing.

Ryu · October 26, 2011, 18:53

Hehe, that's reassuring.

Koyue · October 26, 2011, 18:58

Good

I've seen too many people wanting a relationship with the wrong person and then witnessing how annoying it all is. Love is patience; so wait 'til you feel like the right person is by you. But, becareful; the heart can be just as deceiving

Ryu · October 26, 2011, 19:26

I'm at that point in life where a lot of my friends are prioritizing finding a boyfriend/girlfriend. :/
One of my close friends was dating a boy who was several years older than her. He was in senior year, so he was getting ready to graduate.
The main problem was her parents. They didn't approve of her having a boyfriend because they think that he would distract her from school and athletics.
He was a very nice guy. Valentine's Day for my friend and her boyfriend was SO sweet... He wrote her a song and they exchanged roses. X3
UNFORTUNATELY, my friend's parents found out about them (you know, that parents that want her to study, not date?), so it was pretty much done.
They broke up very messily, and it was really sad to watch such a good relationship fall apart. :(

Now, my friend is so wary about dating, and she keeps advising me about waiting.

Koyue · October 26, 2011, 19:57

THAT'S EXACTLY THE SAME TYPE OF PARENT (well, mom) I HAVE

I've had about 5 guy friends throughout my life as of now.

So sad to hear that. My bestie had boyfriends w/o her parents knowing until she was serious and a little naive of one guy and found out her parents were OK with it.

Guys can be great in the sense that they can be the motivation and assistance/support you need/are missing in life.

Ryu · October 26, 2011, 21:12

Yeah, I feel sorry for my friend. And I'm sorry for you. :(
Actually, if I were to get a boyfriend, I think that my parents would jump up and down in joy. =_=

I'm ok with just having male friends as well as female friends.
I get to hear about entirely different perspectives on lots of stuff (i.e. - video games, shopping, chores, sports, small/cute animals, etc.).

Koyue · October 26, 2011, 22:10

Lucky you.

I'm not comfortable with guys AT ALL. Even as "friends."

Yuukii · October 26, 2011, 22:30

I'm too young

(14)
And my mom don't allow me to have a boyfriend until I finished my studies

Renny · October 28, 2011, 11:14

my mom also says that I am too young to date... (16)

Not that I mind being single... you can enjoy attention from all the boys in the class

Yuukii · October 28, 2011, 11:58

I'm ugly

So I never get much attention.

My mom say my non-smiling face scares people off.

I mean, I can't smile for no reason

Arya · October 30, 2011, 00:52

I smile for no reason >>

Smiles are contagious. I smile at creepers and they smile back. Its an awesome reaction because almost immediately after they're like "why am I smiling? o.o" and Im like "score, corrupted another one"

Yuukii · October 30, 2011, 00:55

I wish i could smile always...I just couldn't...

Koyue · October 30, 2011, 16:15

I try to smile by talking to my sisters. If they're not with me, I just have a straight face and try to "find a happy place"

I hate being out in the public alone

Yuukii · October 30, 2011, 18:20

I never loved public

Renny · October 31, 2011, 09:54

I don't mind it...

as long as I dont have to talk to people... and then I always feel as I am being laughed at

shobeh1212 · October 31, 2011, 10:34

I actually dreamed to have a partner that as good as handsome as charismatic as it was in my fave shoujo mangas..

Sometimes we don't always get what we want "ideally"... and it hurts..
Heart broken?? Yes... I cried when the my boyfriend cheated on me. Two timing guy,...

He is my ideal type.. very friendly, gentleman, caring, loveable and handsome..and it hurts when I found that out..

but I do have a partner right now.. and I do say that he is "somewhat" opposite of my ideal type and opposite of me.. (gay magnet, short tempered, sulky, good cook, very good in sports and in music (knows how to play many sports and instruments), not gentleman, very practical, very very straight forward and very matured) but we do get along just fine and loved me very much..

It is true that Love comes in an unexpected ways..

They do always says that it is always better to have a partner that is somewhat opposite of you. and in my case.. yes.. it is better.. Since I do also have an ex boyfriend that is just like me and it was not a good picture..

Renny · October 31, 2011, 13:34

what a life

Yuukii · October 31, 2011, 21:06

A gay magnet?

Anyways, I like the sound of your boyfriend. I always preferred straight-forward guys

Black Miserie · October 31, 2011, 21:32

What is love?

shobeh1212 · November 01, 2011, 08:32

Quote from: Yuukii on October 31, 2011, 21:06
A gay magnet?

Anyways, I like the sound of your boyfriend. I always preferred straight-forward guys

Yes.. Magnet.. I mean eventhough I'm with him some girls and gays still dares to get close to them.. It's a headache!

Yes.. He is very straight forward.. and sometimes he's too honest that we ended up pestering each other....

Do you like someone right now?

Yuukii · November 01, 2011, 09:05

Well...I guess I like someone. But it's just some puppy love

I'm still young and inexperienced

Renny · November 01, 2011, 09:25

haha young...

The day I start likeing someone, my friends are going to die of shock

shobeh1212 · November 01, 2011, 13:10

Quote from: Yuukii on November 01, 2011, 09:05
Well...I guess I like someone. But it's just some puppy love I'm still young and inexperienced

aaaaaah.., puppy love... I miss those days...

It made me feel very old

It's great to be young and in love..

Yuukii · November 01, 2011, 21:57

How old are you?

shobeh1212 · November 02, 2011, 02:23

24...

your 14 right?

Yuukii · November 02, 2011, 07:40

Yes

I'm still a young naive girl

Renny · November 02, 2011, 12:35

haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young...

shobeh1212 · November 02, 2011, 13:39

Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young...

I agree... hahahah!

Black Miserie · November 02, 2011, 17:12

Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young...

What does that make me?! I'm 18! XD

Yuukii · November 03, 2011, 08:57

I have 2 brothers. One 24 and 25. Both are stupid in love

shobeh1212 · November 04, 2011, 10:14

Quote from: Yuukii on November 03, 2011, 08:57
I have 2 brothers. One 24 and 25. Both are stupid in love

Actually............... most of us do..
When you experienced being in love... you'll see...

Renny · November 04, 2011, 10:59

Quote from: Black Miserie on November 02, 2011, 17:12
Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young...

What does that make me?! I'm 18! XD

Middle aged

Yuukii · November 05, 2011, 23:44

The problem is, my brother (25) got tricked, lost his money (or rather, gave it to the girl) and got tricked into buying anything she wants. Such a...~~bitch~~ bad girlfriend, isn't she? When she was bored, she left, leaving nothing behind. Took my brother's phone along. And my brother said, forget it. So much money was wasted

I really pity my brothers

shobeh1212 · November 06, 2011, 02:56

Quote from: Yuukii on November 05, 2011, 23:44
The problem is, my brother (25) got tricked, lost his money (or rather, gave it to the girl) and got tricked into buying anything she wants. Such a...~~bitch~~ bad girlfriend, isn't she? When she was bored, she left, leaving nothing behind. Took my brother's phone along. And my brother said, forget it. So much money was wasted

I really pity my brothers

That girl is a gold digger

I feel sorry for your brother.. I do hope he will find a better one someday..

There are many fish in the sea,,,

Renny · November 06, 2011, 03:38

Fish... My one friend code named her crush fishy so one one would know who we talking about

and then his friend was fishys friend

Black Miserie · November 06, 2011, 05:24

Quote from: Renny on November 04, 2011, 10:59
Quote from: Black Miserie on November 02, 2011, 17:12
Quote from: Renny on November 02, 2011, 12:35
haha you make 24 sound old and 14 young...

What does that make me?! I'm 18! XD

Middle aged

XD ouch....

Renny · November 06, 2011, 06:45

dont worry... according to that theory i am also middle aged

Black Miserie · November 06, 2011, 16:54

Salt on the wound.... my cousin just called me ma'am.... XD I'm gonna go hide now...

Renny · November 07, 2011, 08:43

I get called aunty by my cousins

Black Miserie · November 07, 2011, 14:49

Little kids say the cruellest things in complete innocence....

Yuukii · November 07, 2011, 22:19

I'm 14 and I'm called Aunty

Renny · November 08, 2011, 07:20

here the Afrikaans kids call anyone who they don't know and is older than them Tannie (aunty)

Black Miserie · November 08, 2011, 13:26

Where are you?

Renny · November 09, 2011, 12:39

South Africa

Black Miserie · November 09, 2011, 13:53

Cool! I'm from South Carolina.... XD

Koyue · November 10, 2011, 18:32

Such a pity and very irritating when family members are "stupid in love."

-Pulls hair out thinking about watashi no ryooshin-

Renny · November 11, 2011, 07:52

watashi no ryooshi?n

?

kurobani · November 11, 2011, 09:16

Quote from: Renny on November 06, 2011, 03:38
Fish... My one friend code named her crush fishy so one one would know who we talking about and then his friend was fishys friend

Hahaha, me and my friends used to do that in school.

We used to give guys code names so we could talk about them without anybody understanding.

Blobsndrees · November 22, 2011, 12:56

Ah I always hated it when girls started talking in code names, it just made me so curious but they wouldn't tell me who it was even though I knew it wasn't me. I spent 7 years asking the same question to the girl next to me every form time

who the heck is strawberry and peanut?!!

Koyue, it must be tough

Do they feed each other during dinner and go ah~ Honey~ Dear~ Honey~ Dear~

Renny · November 23, 2011, 10:22

lol it is fun to talk in code... last year my friend and I code named this other guy monkey... And with codes you can talk to a guy about himself but he wont know that it him that your talking about

I dont usually do that unless my friends start and i get used to calling the guy by his code name but then i always mess it up for the others because i will tell the guy his code name and then he gets a new one

kurobani · December 09, 2011, 01:40

Haha, yeah!! Lol, my friends would've killed me if I ever revealed a code.

We started keeping codes mostly coz when we passed notes in class, the people passing them for us used to read our notes.

Renny · December 09, 2011, 05:17

oh we dont pass notes we chat using our phones

Janni · December 12, 2011, 06:38

After 9 bf's, 1 was dated twice, I think my love life is complete... and I'm only 16.

The longest relationship was a year, the rest ranged from like 1 week (LOL failure with that one) to 7 months (most fall in the 3-5). You'd think dating at 13 was like... early, or I thought it was early, but if you and your partner are mature enough, then being in a relationship was fine. I don't like seeing those relationships where all they do is pda (public display o' affection) and like... (since this was 3 years ago, myspace was still decent...) myspace each other. My last relationship lasted 7 months, and out of the rest, he really was the one imo. But things got in the way and it just ended so badly. And now he thinks it's funny to show off to me by going to parties and talking about this and that girl like they were objects.
What's worst is that this makes me feel that I made guys change. They were so wonderfully nice, and they could do no wrong, but after we break up, it's the end. They become penors... not just to me, but everyone else.

Renny · December 12, 2011, 07:58

wow what a life you have had! I have had a total of (drum roll please) 0 boyfriends

unless you call me being asked out twice by the same boy and then have him forget me in a week just because he doesn't live close by...

Blobsndrees · December 12, 2011, 10:34

It's ok, you're still young, there's plenty of fish in the sea

Janni · December 12, 2011, 14:21

I find moments where you're in a relationship and you wish you single, and vice versa, to be funny moments. Like... how ironic.

Blobsndrees · December 12, 2011, 14:36

so nice to be young

Janni · December 12, 2011, 19:38

... is it nice to be old?

Renny · December 13, 2011, 10:10

Quote from: Janni on December 12, 2011, 19:38
... is it nice to be old?

Must be

Blobsndrees · December 17, 2011, 15:02

I wanna be old and young at the same time, mmhm, like live a very very very very long time while still being young? that would be nice.

Renny · December 19, 2011, 03:05

Quote from: blobsndrees on December 17, 2011, 15:02
I wanna be old and young at the same time, mmhm, like live a very very very very long time while still being young? that would be nice.

lol dont we all

icewing · February 05, 2012, 19:45

ah...

I'm still helplessly in love with my fictional manga characters and korean idols...>.<

move-easy · March 12, 2012, 19:32

ahhhh...love...I could sing you a song about that....
well, so far I've had 2 boyfriends, not a lot, but oh well. I try to be caful of who I pick.
but last time that backfired pretty badly

...really I didn't know that men could be that fucked up...
*sigh* nah, it's over now and as a result I'm even more careful now. I hardly let anyone near me and I think my psyche is probably pretty fucked up now

I still hope to find "the one" and I have someone that I can imagine I'd like to have by my side, but he lives on the other side of the world...
ok enough of that. in short, my love life sucks, I need love really badly but I don't get it ... tadaaaaa

moving on...
(only just noticed that I'm rambling pretty badly up there...)

Fairth · March 13, 2012, 05:55

Mine suck too.
I had around 5 6 (yeah I had forgotten one -_-") boyfriends so far, and it never went over 3 weeks.
I've a crush, go out with him, then get bored after 2weeks and break up.
What's interesting is conquering the other. I hope I'll find someone interesting someday !! (Or at least, someone who'll never stop surprising me xD )

Should I try girls now ?

Fairth · March 13, 2012, 06:16

I'm a girl !! It's right, then ? xD (They can have girlfriends ?

move-easy · March 13, 2012, 08:34

Quote from: Ordog on March 13, 2012, 05:55
Should I try girls now ?

You know what, I actually thought about that. Cause when you look at all the shit that boyfriends tend to do, I really sometimes think that getting a girlfriend would actually be better... it's kinda depressing

Nonii · March 13, 2012, 11:24

I don't see what's "depressing" 'bout it... If you're talking bout the girls part (Maybe I'm just too open-minded...), the "what boyfriends tend to do"-part is far beyond "depressing"

I've made bad choices myself, (luckily) I overcame it... but... it changed my view on things, and right now, considering my relationships, I don't think "love" really exists, at least not in the way most understand it. (I won't say more on this, I don't wanna crush anyone's view on "love") It's complicated, and in addition, I'm not a "lovey-dovey" person, I don't think I'll ever be able to become one.

- Yes, I tried, but it didn't last a week... before I was completely worn out..